Chill out at Margaritas and Ben & Jerry's at Dempsey!

Hehehe....always nice to chill out after exams with friends....Had a lovely dinner at Dempsey (Margarita's) on Sunday with 2 good friends - Ms. LL and Ms WYM .....thanks gal for taking time out to have dinner with me!!



The arty-farty lamp outside near our table!!!




My yummy red fish veracuza (or something like that sounding) dish!




This was Ms. LL's nice cornflake fish dish...quite nice too!!!


Then, it was off to Ben & Jerry's!! Was looking forward to hear some live music there...unfortunately the singer wasn't performing that night! Sigh! But was did discover that this was probably one of the only B & J with a bar!! So was had delicious cocktails with ice cream!!! Not fantastic, but the music and atmosphere was great!!



Cute lamp with ballet shoes at the base...





Suggestive but very retro/arty painting at the corner we were sitting.....


hmm.....realised that I should chill out more often like this!!

LIFE.....

Received this email from a dear friend......Food for thought.....


Subject: Speech on life
The author of The Teenage Textbook (1988) - Adrian Tan, was the
guest-of-honour at a recent NTU convocation ceremony. This was his
speech to the graduating class of 2008.

Life and How to Survive It

I must say thank you to the faculty and staff of the Wee Kim Wee School
of Communication and Information for inviting me to give your
convocation address. It's a wonderful honour and a privilege for me to
speak here for ten minutes without fear of contradiction, defamation or
retaliation. I say this as a Singaporean and more so as a husband.

My wife is a wonderful person and perfect in every way except one. She
is the editor of a magazine. She corrects people for a living. She has
honed her expert skills over a quarter of a century, mostly by
practising at home during conversations between her and me.

On the other hand, I am a litigator. Essentially, I spend my day telling
people how wrong they are. I make my living being disagreeable.

Nevertheless, there is perfect harmony in our matrimonial home. That is
because when an editor and a litigator have an argument, the one who
triumphs is always the wife.

And so I want to start by giving one piece of advice to the men: when
you've already won her heart, you don't need to win every argument.

Marriage is considered one milestone of life. Some of you may already be
married. Some of you may never be married. Some of you will be married.
Some of you will enjoy the experience so much, you will be married many,
many times. Good for you.

The next big milestone in your life is today: your graduation. The end
of education. You're done learning.

You've probably been told the big lie that "Learning is a lifelong
process" and that therefore you will continue studying and taking
masters' degrees and doctorates and professorships and so on. You know
the sort of people who tell you that? Teachers. Don't you think there is
some measure of conflict of interest? They are in the business of
learning, after all. Where would they be without you? They need you to
be repeat customers.

The good news is that they're wrong.

The bad news is that you don't need further education because your
entire life is over. It is gone. That may come as a shock to some of
you. You're in your teens or early twenties. People may tell you that
you will live to be 70, 80, 90 years old. That is your life expectancy.

I love that term: life expectancy. We all understand the term to mean
the average life span of a group of people. But I'm here to talk about a
bigger idea, which is what you expect from your life.

You may be very happy to know that Singapore is currently ranked as the
country with the third highest life expectancy. We are behind Andorra
and Japan, and tied with San Marino. It seems quite clear why people in
those countries, and ours, live so long. We share one thing in common:
our football teams are all hopeless. There's very little danger of any
of our citizens having their pulses raised by watching us play in the
World Cup. Spectators are more likely to be lulled into a gentle and
restful nap.

Singaporeans have a life expectancy of 81.8 years. Singapore men live to
an average of 79.21 years, while Singapore women live more than five
years longer, probably to take into account the additional time they
need to spend in the bathroom.

So here you are, in your twenties, thinking that you'll have another 40
years to go. Four decades in which to live long and prosper.

Bad news. Read the papers. There are people dropping dead when they're
50, 40, 30 years old. Or quite possibly just after finishing their
convocation. They would be very disappointed that they didn't meet their
life expectancy.

I'm here to tell you this. Forget about your life expectancy.

After all, it's calculated based on an average. And you never, ever want
to expect being average.

Revisit those expectations. You might be looking forward to working,
falling in love, marrying, raising a family. You are told that, as
graduates, you should expect to find a job paying so much, where your
hours are so much, where your responsibilities are so much.

That is what is expected of you. And if you live up to it, it will be an
awful waste.

If you expect that, you will be limiting yourself. You will be living
your life according to boundaries set by average people. I have nothing
against average people. But no one should aspire to be them. And you
don't need years of education by the best minds in Singapore to prepare
you to be average.

What you should prepare for is mess. Life's a mess. You are not entitled
to expect anything from it. Life is not fair. Everything does not
balance out in the end. Life happens, and you have no control over it.
Good and bad things happen to you day by day, hour by hour, moment by
moment. Your degree is a poor armour against fate.

Don't expect anything. Erase all life expectancies. Just live. Your life
is over as of today. At this point in time, you have grown as tall as
you will ever be, you are physically the fittest you will ever be in
your entire life and you are probably looking the best that you will
ever look. This is as good as it gets. It is all downhill from here. Or
up. No one knows.

What does this mean for you? It is good that your life is over.

Since your life is over, you are free. Let me tell you the many
wonderful things that you can do when you are free.

The most important is this: do not work.

Work is anything that you are compelled to do. By its very nature, it is
undesirable.

Work kills. The Japanese have a term "Karoshi", which means death from
overwork. That's the most dramatic form of how work can kill. But it can
also kill you in more subtle ways. If you work, then day by day, bit by
bit, your soul is chipped away, disintegrating until there's nothing
left. A rock has been ground into sand and dust.

There's a common misconception that work is necessary. You will meet
people working at miserable jobs. They tell you they are "making a
living". No, they're not. They're dying, frittering away their
fast-extinguishing lives doing things which are, at best, meaningless
and, at worst, harmful.

People will tell you that work ennobles you, that work lends you a
certain dignity. Work makes you free. The slogan "Arbeit macht frei" was
placed at the entrances to a number of Nazi concentration camps. Utter
nonsense.

Do not waste the vast majority of your life doing something you hate so
that you can spend the small remainder sliver of your life in modest
comfort. You may never reach that end anyway.

Resist the temptation to get a job. Instead, play. Find something you
enjoy doing. Do it. Over and over again. You will become good at it for
two reasons: you like it, and you do it often. Soon, that will have
value in itself.

I like arguing, and I love language. So, I became a litigator. I enjoy
it and I would do it for free. If I didn't do that, I would've been in
some other type of work that still involved writing fiction - probably a
sports journalist.

So what should you do? You will find your own niche. I don't imagine you
will need to look very hard. By this time in your life, you will have a
very good idea of what you will want to do. In fact, I'll go further and
say the ideal situation would be that you will not be able to stop
yourself pursuing your passions. By this time you should know what your
obsessions are. If you enjoy showing off your knowledge and feeling
superior, you might become a teacher.

Find that pursuit that will energise you, consume you, become an
obsession. Each day, you must rise with a restless enthusiasm. If you
don't, you are working.

Most of you will end up in activities which involve communication. To
those of you I have a second message: be wary of the truth. I'm not
asking you to speak it, or write it, for there are times when it is
dangerous or impossible to do those things. The truth has a great
capacity to offend and injure, and you will find that the closer you are
to someone, the more care you must take to disguise or even conceal the
truth. Often, there is great virtue in being evasive, or equivocating.
There is also great skill. Any child can blurt out the truth, without
thought to the consequences. It takes great maturity to appreciate the
value of silence.

In order to be wary of the truth, you must first know it. That requires
great frankness to yourself. Never fool the person in the mirror.

I have told you that your life is over, that you should not work, and
that you should avoid telling the truth. I now say this to you: be
hated.

It's not as easy as it sounds. Do you know anyone who hates you? Yet
every great figure who has contributed to the human race has been hated,
not just by one person, but often by a great many. That hatred is so
strong it has caused those great figures to be shunned, abused, murdered
and in one famous instance, nailed to a cross.

One does not have to be evil to be hated. In fact, it's often the case
that one is hated precisely because one is trying to do right by one's
own convictions. It is far too easy to be liked, one merely has to be
accommodating and hold no strong convictions. Then one will gravitate
towards the centre and settle into the average. That cannot be your
role. There are a great many bad people in the world, and if you are not
offending them, you must be bad yourself. Popularity is a sure sign that
you are doing something wrong.

The other side of the coin is this: fall in love.

I didn't say "be loved". That requires too much compromise. If one
changes one's looks, personality and values, one can be loved by anyone.

Rather, I exhort you to love another human being. It may seem odd for me
to tell you this. You may expect it to happen naturally, without
deliberation. That is false. Modern society is anti-love. We've taken a
microscope to everyone to bring out their flaws and shortcomings. It far
easier to find a reason not to love someone, than otherwise. Rejection
requires only one reason. Love requires complete acceptance. It is hard
work - the only kind of work that I find palatable.

Loving someone has great benefits. There is admiration, learning,
attraction and something which, for the want of a better word, we call
happiness. In loving someone, we become inspired to better ourselves in
every way. We learn the truth worthlessness of material things. We
celebrate being human. Loving is good for the soul.

Loving someone is therefore very important, and it is also important to
choose the right person. Despite popular culture, love doesn't happen by
chance, at first sight, across a crowded dance floor. It grows slowly,
sinking roots first before branching and blossoming. It is not a silly
weed, but a mighty tree that weathers every storm.

You will find, that when you have someone to love, that the face is less
important than the brain, and the body is less important than the heart.

You will also find that it is no great tragedy if your love is not
reciprocated. You are not doing it to be loved back. Its value is to
inspire you.

Finally, you will find that there is no half-measure when it comes to
loving someone. You either don't, or you do with every cell in your
body, completely and utterly, without reservation or apology. It
consumes you, and you are reborn, all the better for it.

Don't work. Avoid telling the truth. Be hated. Love someone.

You're going to have a busy life. Thank goodness there's no life
expectancy.

Back to the grind....

Sigh.....it's back to the grind again!!! Not looking forward to ward full of elderly patients that nobody wants to see!! Arrggh!!

Anyway...was surprised that I was kinda missing coming back to work.... at least there's company and chatter (although more bitching than anything constructive!).....sheesh....... how is anyone able to glorify God in this kind of 'toxic' environment!!!

Anyhow....am glad the exam is over! But God, I need Your help and grace indeed to pass this once and for all!! HELP me!!!

I can only surrender to the one who holds my future in His hands!

I refuse to succumb!?!

Whoa!!! Feel as though my brain cells were just microwaved....my heart bleeding away and my soul shrivelled up like a fallen leaf.....yeah, think that basically sums out how I feel right now! Just lousy.......

Been staring at the computer screen for hours in preparation for my exam on Tuesday...that said, I dun think I will ever be 'ready enough' for it....there's too much to know....too much details to memorize....too much new and pre-existing facts to stuff in this puny brain of mine! HELPPPP!!!! ( Lord, I need an extra brain - not kidding about it!)....Lord, I really need Your wisdom for this exam......

Then, there's the issue of the heart...... shared with some close friends and of course my sis about this a while ago.......just got wind of my 'good' friend being asked for a couple of dates (does having coffee together count?!?) by a guy from my cell (whom I was maybe slightly interested?!?)......sigh......why does this always happen to me?!? (the last I had this "bawling my eyes out session" was a couple years back in Uni- and he ended up marrying another ' good' friend of mine!!!!) Lord, how cruel are you to me?!? It's not fair!... and I go on ranting at God for days on end in this vein....only to realise that the main problem was me just fantasising and building castles in the air when nothing was actually happening in reality.....see, the stupidity of mankind! (rather womenkind!).....and how we suffer for our foolishness!!!!

To top that off....everyone gives me that same old, same old CRAP of how 'you have not met the right person yet'..... or worst ' just chill, it happens when you aren't looking'.......and to add salt into the wound, it's always advice given my people who are married... or attached...OUCH!!! I know they mean well and would like to offer some words of comfort......but maybe they might be more helpful not saying anything at all...sometimes, all we need is a listening ear....and a hug...?!?

As if things could not get any worst, this guy whom I know for sure will not be my husband keeps calling and wanting to talk......man, doesn't he get it? How come the guy i wished would call me for coffee doesn't and the one i wished would just disappear keeps bugging me?!? Sigh.......don't get me wrong, I dun hate this chap, it's just frustrating to know that i shudder everytime his name registers on the phone (rather than leap in excitement?!?)......and knowing that every conversation I've had with him revolves around him and him alone..... why does he even want to have a conversation ( he should just have a monologue with himself! and complain to himself....)... The weird things in life that I fail to comprehend......

And my soul....well, it feels as though my spirit man has died....yes, i feel rejuvenated after worship in church...but that's the problem....it ends the minute I step out of church.......and the pressures of the world starts to crowd Him out again....doesn't help that I still feel isolated in this cell group of mine (after being in it for 3 years!!!)....feel as though I am heading nowhere spiritually........know that God is birthing a new thing in my heart- but I dun really comprehend , and neither do I get any help from anyone around me either.......feel so lost without a purpose...a goal.... a plan...... mebbe it's time for another season of prayer and fasting for my life direction and purpose......I dunno........will have to ask God about this.......coz only He has the answer.........

Lord, I dunno what's happening....I only know that I feel like I am in the pit right now with no one around......feel so alone.....feel so isolated ..... unloved..... uncared for....Yet, I know You care...and You love me....and You know me and what my heart's desires are....You hold my future in Your hands....and You want the BEST for my life! But in this life - it helps if i could have what Selwyn Hughes calls - ' Friends with skin on' ...or what Ps. Sue Harvey used to say ' we all need love with skin on'.......Lord, I pray that You will bring these people into my life ....and open my eyes to their roles in my life......Lord, I pray that You will show me what Your plans are for me in this new season of my life.......show me Your purpose and plans.......Help me to be open to Your calling in my life....and to be obedient to whatever the task is at hand.......

Thank You Lord! - I refuse to succumb to the lies of the enemy!!!

Food glorious food.....not to mention family is the BEST!!!

Wow!! It's been soo good to be on leave....never realised how essential our Sabbath rest was....and how much our body and soul requires rest from the hustle and bustle in life........
Was able to go back to KL and Ipoh to spend time with family over the Malaysian National Day weekend......

Had a nice dinner at Italiannes at 1 Utama with my mum, dad and Bro......Check this out!!!



Grilled Chicken with spinach cream sauce





Mussels in nice tomato based sauce




Seafood pasta - all time favourite




Garlic chicken pizza!!!


Hehehe......that was rather yummy!!!!

And then, the usual trip to Ipoh...to visit my grandparents and of course....to EAT at the famous hawker stores...although I must say that the standard have dropped over the years......but nevertheless, it still has one of the yummiest hawker fare around!! (dun have photos of those dishes though -too busy eating to take any photos!!)

But do have some photos of my uncle's dogs.....




Joey the poodle




Lady the Golden retriever




Hero the Rottweiler

All in all....a enjoyable trip home!!